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How I Fell Out of Love with Blogging and What I Learned Along the Way


A couple of weeks ago, Joey asked me what editorial calendar I used for my blog because he just came across one and it was amazing.

I said something along the lines of “haha what, I hardly ever blog these days.”

He told me I should get it because it was great for planning content; I can just go on WordPress and start writing! I replied with “okay, I guess I can plot when to talk about Freakie’s favorite things and when to talk about MY favorite things.” Something like that.

How I Fell Out of Love

I was once a blogger. That was my identity, before we/they were called influencers, before I became just a copywriter (and writing for a living completely took over my life). Prior to getting into the advertising field, my job titles came in slashes: blogger/web designer, blogger/freelancer. “Blogger” always took the forefront.

(I remember one time, I asked a friend of a friend if he was a blogger and he kind of haughtily responded with “no, I’m a writer.” I can’t recall if I took offense in that, but I didn’t understand the difference back then. I was drunk so I might have been a bitch and he might still dislike me to this day.)

Pa-importante person that I am/was, I got a kick out of sharing my life with online friends and strangers. Blogging was so simple back then and I was free to write whatever I wanted because the chance of meeting my audience (who all lived in other countries) in the flesh was highly impossible.

I started going online in 1997 and I’ve been obsessed with internet since the day I signed up for I grew up in a small college town in the province and I wasn’t particularly well-liked by my peers so I longed for something else. The internet gave me that— message board friends, pen pals from Brazil and Australia, a place to tell my story, and a world outside my miserable Los Baños existence.

Eventually, blogging blew up in the Philippines and I was part of the first wave of the new media pro-blogging chenelyn (lol sorry). I never took it seriously, though. While everyone was finding their niches and shit, I stuck to what I knew best: yapping about myself (a mistake). My audience expanded into people I was bound to bump into offline and the community became too small, but I didn’t mind. Then blogging became a viable source of income and there was always this constant pressure to keep a readership and to kind of be more careful with my words so that money would keep coming in in the form of sponsorships and advertorials.

And it all just kind of fizzled out. Writing about myself got old, and with maturity came privacy. Without a niche, what the hell was I going to blog about? Besides, I just wasn’t feeling it anymore.

So I took a breather. I stopped thinking in blog posts and it was great! What a relief to not have to document everything so that I’d have content. But even though my job and my new relationship kept me happily busy, I still felt a bit of guilt and remorse for abandoning something that I’ve been doing for more than half my life. I tried to keep blogging, popping in every now and then to update this space, but my attempts were half-hearted (sometimes quarter-hearted, even) and it showed.

The past year and a half has been the best time of my life so far (thank you for turning things around, Joey ♥) and it saddens me that it went undocumented. I needed a break, though, because I had no fucking clue what I was doing or the direction I wanted to take— not just with blogging, but with life.

What I Learned

I learned a few things about myself when I took some time off, and I hope that these will guide me in how I approach this whole blogging thing.

Sponsored posts//
Earning money is nice (really, really nice) but I found little enjoyment in advertorials for big brands. They’re so hard and I always feel a little insincere writing them. Sure, I never accept sponsored posts if I don’t believe, support, or use the product but I couldn’t help but feel a bit like a shill every time.

I want what I write to have heart and to matter to someone. I also want to be relatable. I’m lucky to have a full-time job and little side projects so I don’t have to heavily depend on my blog for income, giving me a little leeway to write whatever the hell I want.

People will always care//
I stopped blogging because I couldn’t keep up with all these fancy fashion, beauty, and lifestyle bloggers and their beautifully curated life. I thought— why would anyone want to read about this silly bleach blonde cat crazy person when they could be looking at twenty photos of someone’s #OOTD or #FOTD?!

But personal blogs are my favorite. I love that I can learn so much about a person and build a friendship of sorts with them over the internet. Though useful and valuable, I honestly don’t give a shit about style blogs, beauty blogs, tech blogs etc etc. I find most boring because they’re not juicy, and only seek them out when needed. I can’t form a relationship with that/you because I’m only invited to your closet or your make-up bag. It doesn’t invite me into your life.

To quote my buddy, Irene: I don’t care about what you’re wearing if I don’t know who you’re kissing.

Besides, everyone can post outfits or reviews of the same product, but no one can replicate your life or your story.

Be brave, be vulnerable//
I have an impenetrable wall 7-feet high guarding my heart because I’ve been burned before and I refuse to be used as anyone’s target practice. But this wall has been up for so long that I think I’ve forgotten what it’s like to feel. It’s something I’ve been struggling with since my last relationship ended and something I constantly worry about because it’s hard to write when you hide from your emotions.

Vulnerability is a lesson I need to learn. I’m tough as nails but I think that it’s done me more harm than good.

Honesty is important//
We’re very careful with what we post online and that’s totally cool. No one wants to read paragraphs of my anger towards Metro Manila nor do I want a public documentation of the trouble I get into every weekend. I’ve also stopped being so loose with my words and emotions.

But I think a too curated life breeds insecurity in others and makes you come across as a fictional character. I’ve totally embraced my Instagram shelfie-envy (and general life envy) and turned it into inspiration, but there are times when I’ve had to cut myself off because I was starting to feel unsatisfied with my life!

We could all benefit from flashes of realness.

I’ve been blogging for nearly two decades but I feel like I still know nothing. In a way, I’m kind of starting over and finding a purpose for this dusty little corner of the internet. I’m a little excited!

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  • Reply Carina March 6, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    YAY! I love this post. :D I’ve always loved personal blogs the most. I started unfollowing “pakita” blogs lang that don’t feel personal or relatable. I’ve been trying to blog more lately because I kind of stopped at some point also, and I also felt a little sad when I realized that I didn’t have documented memories of certain life events. :( Anyway, I look forward to your future blog posts, Helga! :D

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:06 am

      @Carina, Thanks, Carina! I worried I might across bitter or salty in this blog post but people seem to relate or agree so YAY!!!!

  • Reply Cae March 6, 2015 at 1:59 pm

    This is exactly how I felt and maybe still feel. Lifestyle blogs aren’t simply lifestyle blogs nowadays. Although I like how some bloggers have been stepping up their game, I’m kind of irritated by the part wherein they step up the bar so high for everyone else. Please don’t stop blogging! Not now. You’ve been my inspiration in terms of writing shit just because I feel like it. Plus, the internet need more real people like you. U da bomb.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:07 am

      @Cae, Haha thanks Cae! I think it’s good that people are always looking ways to improve their ~blogging game~ but sometimes, the pressure is just too much!

  • Reply Bless March 6, 2015 at 2:21 pm

    I can totally relate to this, and I hope one day I’ll finally be ready to start over just like you. I’m looking forward to hearing more about your adventures in life. Been a reader since 2009 and I’ve always loved reading each one of your entries because they’re personal and not just some made-up blog series for the readers. I liked the not-so-serious ones best. I love that your blog posts are made for the sole purpose of documenting your life — meaning you do it for yourself nd not for others. I learned to love blogs because of yours, actually. But sadly I haven’t seen another one like yours, the type with original and heartfelt content, and not to mention with good humor lolz. (Maybe im just too lazy to look for something similar, and all i hear about are the famouz blogs but i dont like most of em because i find them too orchestrated or what)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:10 am

      @Bless, Thank you so much for sticking around! I don’t read a lot of local blogs because it’s hard to find original content but I read a lot of “foreign” ones! I’m actually sad that one of the blogs I used to stalk took a hiatus so she could recover from 2014’s breakups and find herself. :(

  • Reply Paoline March 6, 2015 at 2:56 pm

    My heart just warmed up when you said that your favorite blogs are the personal blogs. You are such a wonderfully real person/blogger (person comes first, see), Helga! :) Cheers to rekindling the blogging spirit (or whatever) :)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:11 am

      @Paoline, Thank you so much! <3

  • Reply Corinth March 6, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    What Pao said. Keep writing Helga. YOU ARE RELEVANT! I’ve been a lurker around your blog since Tumblr days and I’m so glad I still follow you to this day! I saw you one time at Cubao Expo, you and your pink bob and I just think you’re an awesome woman! <3 Keep the fire burning! Ang cheesy na. Okay.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:11 am

      @Corinth, OMG!!! Sana you said hi!!!! :((((

  • Reply Nikki Quilicot March 6, 2015 at 3:12 pm

    I cried a little :)

  • Reply Althea March 6, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    AMEN. I’ve been ‘silenced’ by my ex for 8 years mainly because our relationship had to remain private. I couldn’t write what I knew best – love, sex, life. It’s time to resurrect The Bitch Goddess blog.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:14 am

      @Althea, I KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE “SILENCED” hahaha. Glad you’re back, Althea! I WANT 2 READ ALL THE JUICY DEETZ.

  • Reply Abi March 6, 2015 at 3:32 pm

    I can totally relate to falling out of love with blogging. And no matter how much I try to blog again, no matter how much I promise myself that I would write more posts, I ended up not doing anything. Everything seems simpler in 140 characters.

    In other words, I needed this. Thanks Helga :) Please do continue blogging.

    Also, thank you Joey for inspiring Helga. :D

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:16 am


      Tweeting and Instagramming is so much easier nga. For a while, I considered just sticking to those 2 and figured most people don’t have time to read blogs anyway.

  • Reply vera March 6, 2015 at 3:51 pm

    I can’t write to save my life so I don’t know what I was thinking when I got into documenting things online. I even got my own domain, haha! What a waste. Anyway, I feel safer and not too pressured to be verbose in little spaces like instagram. I still remember the filipina flickr group you made! What happened to that?

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:17 am

      @vera, I LOVE INSTAGRAM!

      The whole Flickr community eventually died (I read an article about how it was a mistake for them not to adapt to mobile the way Instagram did) and everyone just kinda moved on from FF.

  • Reply Jaya March 6, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    Love the quote “I don’t care about what you’re wearing if I don’t know who you’re kissing.” because you’re so right! I find myself more interested in the personal blog entries of people rather than the OOTDs or FOTDs! I find myself also responding to personal entries more because it’s nice getting to know the people behind the screen! Also, if you have anger towards Manila, we should totally exchange numbers and create a WhatsApp group so we can bitch to our heart’s content! Hahaha

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:17 am


  • Reply joan March 6, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    Great post H!

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:17 am

      @joan, Thanks J2!!!!!

  • Reply Jeff March 6, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    In fair! Nice one, Helga.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:17 am

      @Jeff, Thanks, Mr Cape <3

  • Reply Ochi March 6, 2015 at 5:36 pm

    “I don’t care about what you’re wearing if I don’t know who you’re kissing.”

    This. I started cyber-stalking you 2008 or 2009 because your blog is so, uhm, personal. Meh. I wanted to know more about your life and the chismosa in me is satisfied everytime I read a post. Hahaha

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:18 am

      @Ochi, Hahahaha we are all a little chismosa. Thank you for reading. <3

  • Reply Sherica March 6, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    I think I met you through Flickr days and I’ve always been intrigued about your personal life cause you seemed really interesting and I loooooveeed reading your blog before! It’s fascinating just being able to get to know a person you haven’t even met by just reading their online journal tapos basta, iba kasi the feeling of reading a personal blog than these fashion/lifestyle/arts blogs these days. And super true the “I don’t care about what you’re wearing if I don’t know who you’re kissing.” part LOL. Or maybe i’m just really chismosa hahahaha

    Remember the good old blogging days when there were no anons involved and everyone just blogged about their daily lives, thoughts and what not without judgments and actually gaining friends through it (penpals and message boards were the best) lol.


    • Reply Gracey March 7, 2015 at 10:29 am

      @Sherica, True that!

      Really great post Helga. I started blogging around 2004 and those were the days I enjoyed blogging so much simply because no one will judge you, with readers or no readers its just a really nice way of expressing yourself, parang personal diary talaga (Long live Livejournal!) I took a long hiatus/break during my college years and when I came back, ibang iba na :) I came back because I miss blogging and also for me to share again my experiences as a Nurse and for those who are hoping to be a Nurse in the future.

      • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:45 am

        @Gracey, Livejournal was the best!!!

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:45 am

      @Sherica, CHISMOSA DIN AKO!

      I miss making new friends online! Now kasi, parang nakakatamad or nakaka-intimidate or di ka papansinin haha.

  • Reply Nickle Love March 6, 2015 at 7:06 pm

    Hi Helga! I feel sort of the same. I wasn’t really that good in blogging but before I tried to document things about my life and yeah, nobody really cares except me, which was fine and all. (I later found out some of mom’s friends that are my FB friends would read my posts. x.x) Plus my life was ‘meh’. Now I am finding inspiration in the activities I’ve joined since Feb and I’m excited to share it to anyone who would care. LOL. I love and still love your pictures, they’re so artsy~ IMO. ;)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 11:46 am

      @Nickle Love, Thanks, Nickle! Buti ka nga, nagawa mo yung book blog mo. I can’t review stuff at all!

  • Reply Kim March 6, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    This is your best post for me and I’ve been following this blog for years. It’s so honest yet the words didn’t come out raw.

    This post mirrors what every personal blogger felt when blogging (especially style and beauty blogs) became a thing and everyone else wanted to do it to access the “A-life”. I used to share about my everyday life too (basically shit and ~kalandian~ that teens go through) but when everyone else seemed to post about how magnificent and fancy their life is and got attention for it, I got pressured and tried to write the same content. Didn’t feel as good so I just stopped altogether. I deleted my entire blog content and started a private online diary. Although I’m not going to revive my public blog anytime soon, your post made me really happy and inspired. I look forward to reading more personal blogs from you and other people! <3 I'm sick of scrolling through 20 something maiba-lang-ang-angle pictures of the same person haha.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:11 pm

      @Kim, Thank you so much for reading! <3

      I think blogging for the sake of blogging is a mistake (that I've done many ,many times). I keep reading tips from other bloggers who say you're supposed to be consistent with putting out new content on a regular basis but it's just so damn hard. Quality over quantity, I guess.

  • Reply Clarisse March 6, 2015 at 8:01 pm

    Woah, you’re from LB too! (sorry, am I being too creepy now?) Glad to see you’re getting back to it! You’re too witty for the Internet to lose :)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:12 pm

      @Clarisse, Haha not creepy at all! I lived there for 12 years before moving to the city permanently. :)

  • Reply Nikki March 6, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    I’ve been blogging for over 10 years now. I’ve fallen in and out of love of it too, for the same reasons you have written. But most of the time, what stops me from blogging is the feeling that I’m not that *~fabulous~* for the internet. It really feels nice to know that people out there would still care. And I do hope that remains true.

    Who run da world? #RealBloggerz hehehehe. Korni ko shet.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:12 pm

      @Nikki, I think we’re all pretty cute and fab in our own way!

  • Reply Xyla March 6, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    True that. All that lifestyle blogging… waley na talaga! I also “stopped” blogging because of my busy life but there are still few blogs that I visit from time to time (including yours). I like personal blogs better prolly because I’m chismosa too. Haha!

    I like this entry! Very sincere and honest.

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:13 pm

      @Xyla, Thanks, Xyla!!! Need 2 send u money pa pala, I keep forgetting haha.

  • Reply Dre March 6, 2015 at 9:56 pm

    it felt like you read my thoughts. I’ve had my personal blog for years, but I pop in and out of personal blogging. I think I had a burn out with sharing all my thoughts and feelings online, so I chose to write them down on paper. I started book blogging almost 2 years ago, and now I am a bit burned out. I think it takes a toll on you when you, specially when you’re busy with real life. It’s okay to disconnect sometimes. And I still do stalk your blog ;)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:16 pm

      @Dre, I think it’s totally ok to stop blogging because forcing it just churns out crap content! Happened to me haha.

      Thank you! <3

  • Reply kitty March 6, 2015 at 10:19 pm

    I guess I’m not alone in this “falling out of blogging” thing…


    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:17 pm

      @kitty, Cheers! We all need to take a break sometimes. :)

  • Reply Chester March 6, 2015 at 11:27 pm

    This post takes me back to my early blogging days. And I am really grateful that my friends before is my cool squad now. *side eyes Sherica, Ayiene, and Claire* I really like it back in the days when almost everyone was just posting personal stuff because in that way you get to know the blogger effortlessly. There were no “celebrity” bloggers and everyone seem to be in equal floors. But the (blogging) world has evolved and most has to adapt with it hence what we have now.
    Ahhhhhh so many thoughts I can’t organize. I just really miss it before!

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:21 pm

      @Chester, I, too, like how blogging has evolved! Pero minsan, nakakasawa na kasi hahaha or I’m just jaded.

  • Reply yza marzan March 6, 2015 at 11:37 pm

    First of all, nice layout! I agree with what you said about beauty / tech / fashion blogs etc about not having much substance. My favorite blogs are personal ones. I had been on one of those stages where I asked myself if I would still continue blogging as there are more mainstream ones than mine but in the end, who cares? Your blog is your extension. write because you want to and not because you want to be famous or whatevs. :)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:26 pm

      @yza marzan, Thank you!

      It’s really just a matter of preference. Hahaha I HOPE I DON’T COME ACROSS AS SOMEONE WHO IS PUTTING DOWN THOSE OTHER TYPES OF BLOGS because I know how much hard work go into those.

      • Reply Yza Marzan March 9, 2015 at 12:40 pm

        @Helga, oh, no worries, you didnt! Those types of blogs are quite helpful if the need arise but I am more attracted to those personal ones. Those that I can relate to the writers more. (aka the ones I stalk on a daily basis. lol.) You are right. its just a matter of preference and I, too, am not dismissing the hard work that they put in their content. :)

  • Reply kittykatt March 7, 2015 at 12:15 am

    I have been reader of your blog since 2011 and I must say that out of all the blogs that I read throughout the years you are the most relatable. You’re witty, funny and an animal lover too! :) I’m tired of seeing travel, fashion, lifestyle blogs because I can’t relate to them although they are just nice to look at. Your blog is like a breath of fresh air. Please don’t stop blogging now. BTW, Saw you once sa Enterprise building in Makati when you had blonde hair pa but you look like nagmamadali and I’m too shy to say hi! :)

    • Reply Helga March 9, 2015 at 12:27 pm

      @kittykatt, Thank you so much! And I really am just a fast walker hahahaha.

  • Reply Euri March 7, 2015 at 12:36 am

    I never really cared about pro blogging. I just blog because I want to. Even if nobody ever reads or comments to my blog entries. I just treat mine as just another journal I keep. I get sponsored post sometimes, but they’re mostly copy and paste and I don’t really mind much since they get pushed off the main page soon enough and nobody reads archives anyway (or at least, I think nobody does). XD

    Please don’t stop blogging. Because, believe it of not, I still read your blog. I still read other old blogger’s blog, though I rarely comment. ?

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:29 am

      @Euri, paid guest posts are so easy haha, I’ve done maybe 3 or 4?

      I get lazy to comment din! It’s easier to just like and fave.

  • Reply Phi March 7, 2015 at 12:45 am

    ty for writing this helga bb.

    Seriously what you wrote just resonated with me. I’ve been going back and forth about whether or not I want to start blogging again and was worried about the more superficial shit. I think your post is giving me the extra push I need.


    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:30 am

      @Phi, Yay bb <3

  • Reply Raisa March 7, 2015 at 1:23 am

    But I miss your outfit posts! D: I actually prefer outfit posts from “regular” people where style isn’t the focus of their blog, just a now and then thing (like I do, I guess). I think it makes them more relatable, and I personally find it more interesting since that’s something they’d actually wear out instead of put on a flashy outfit, take a few pics, go back inside and change to PJs, post to blog. Hah.

    I took a six-year break from blogging! Plenty of stuff happened, some great (got married), and some completely terrible (dad passed away), and my life was a hot mess. So I think it was a good thing I wasn’t blogging. I did miss it a lot while I was gone.

    I definitely noticed the change when I came back though! I remember when blogs were just personal diaries basically that if people checked out, it was cool. But people weren’t caught up on pageviews and Pinterest-worthy featured images were a rare sight. I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. I like the push to quality, but I also miss the authenticity. And yeah, some blogs nowadays are way too curated. But I guess, I understand how some people are hesitant to be more vulnerable when hundreds of people read.

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:30 am

      @Raisa, “I like the push to quality, but I also miss the authenticity.” -> THIS EXACTLY! Getting the perfect balance of the two is pretty tricky!

  • Reply Lizzie March 7, 2015 at 9:47 am

    You don’t care about beauty and style blogs? Oh, you wound me. :(

    Kidding aside, I started following your blog yearsssss ago. It was my go-to website when I needed to cheer myself up a bit. You made it personal, relatable, and above all, witty.

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:31 am

      @Lizzie, U da best, Lizzieberrrrr

  • Reply Aneth March 7, 2015 at 7:41 pm

    I still think you’re one of the most genuine bloggers that I’ve been following since ’09. I wish you don’t stop blogging because I really, really, really, really like you (hey, Carly!) and the way you blog. It also saddens me that I can barely find a good personal blog now because most of the blogs now have sponsored posts. Aahhhhhh :(

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:33 am

      @Aneth, Thanks, Aneth! I think there are still a lot of great personal lifestyle blogs (both local and foreign) that aren’t always sponsored post after sponsored post!

  • Reply Camie Juan March 8, 2015 at 12:46 pm

    I loved this, Helga!

    I agree, blogging is no longer like before and I admit to giving in to the pressure of trying to keep up because I chose to make it my number one source of income, even worse when it comes to accepting sponsored posts from brands I do support and then these said brands ask for ridiculous content input that isn’t authentic at all and there’s no way out of it (because Nuffnang). I always feel a little gross about myself afterwards. It’s something I’m still trying to work my way around so I wouldn’t ever have to do anything that makes me feel like a total sell-out or make me feel like I’m losing my integrity.

    Anyway, for me it was the opposite of why I fell out of blogging for a while last year. I think it was mostly because I felt too much pressure to share my life because that’s what my readers wanted and I was getting so bored with it. I also didn’t like that some anons got so darn involved with everything. But that was easily solved by deleting my account, so now I can write whatever the hell I want without worrying about anons will say. Personal blogs still win out of all blogs because it means relatable and genuine.

    Cant wait to read more of your blog entries, Helga! I’m so glad you’re back :)

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:35 am

      @Camie Juan, Thanks, Camie! And ya gotta do what ya gotta do. If my blog were my main source of income, I’d be hustling with the best of them but I can’t do that because I AM SHY hahaha.

  • Reply Jhanz March 8, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    I agree to every single thing that you’ve said. It’s sad that “blogs” actually became more complicated than it was. When I started blogging (that was roughly 10 years ago), everything was so simple — you share your thoughts, you give people a quick peek of your life, and you’re okay. Today, personal blogs are being branded by “digital marketers” (or so they call themselves) as “chapsuey” — something that contains too much stuff that it becomes “not worthy” of being read. It just saddens me a lot that people try to ride on the trend that these “digital marketers” has created — you have to have a niche, you have to have this, you have to have that. Too much expectations that blogging becomes superficial, something too curated, losing ‘that’ touch to the personal side of it all.

    I hope personal blogs that I’ve come to love (like yours) would strive to survive. Hope you don’t give up on this space of yours online. <3 I will still look forward to your blog posts soon!

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 11:36 am

      @Jhanz, I see so many blogs that are just full of press releases and event coverages I’m like… who would want to read that? Hahaha.

  • Reply April March 9, 2015 at 11:02 am

    You’ve been and still are one of my favourite bloggers these past few years. :) Honestly didn’t mind too much when your posts slowed down, it was actually refreshing to know that you have to deal with real life things offline like most of us. As a 5+ years follower, it’s also so wonderful to see you ~*grow and I can’t wait to read about your next adventures. Thank you for being an inspiration and making the internet a brighter, sassier, better place. Xx Wishing you all the best always!

    • Reply Helga March 11, 2015 at 10:28 am

      @April, Thank you so much <3

  • Reply Justine March 9, 2015 at 4:04 pm

    I may have been saying this a lot in my previous comments but I totally relate to most of the things about blogging and keeping things personal. I’ve been one of those people who have not really let the whole “blogging” shebang get to me and still write for myself. I’d like to think of myself as part of the first bloggers wave having been doing it since the early 2000s, and it’s how we met, too! Ultimately I don’t punish myself too much anymore if I don’t publish a post or if I miss a blogging date. I just do it because I love to write about myself (how selfish, haha!) and also, you’re probably one of the only blogs I read from the first batch, among the other few. Glad you’re still doing it!

    • Reply Helga March 11, 2015 at 10:29 am

      @Justine, Thank youuuu <3

  • Reply Camz March 9, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    I used to blog at Tabulas and I met people there that I’m still friends with to this day, and that was almost around 12 years ago. I keep thinking what was it about that community that made it so personal, and I think your sentiments are spot on. Blogging is simpler back then. I can blog about feeling a little down and have loads of people giving comments, trying to give me what little comfort they can offer. I miss that. Nowadays, blogging is more clinical and profit-driven I guess.

    • Reply Helga March 11, 2015 at 10:30 am

      @Camz, I think it’s great that people earn income from their blogs (I do, but mostly passively!). It just gets tiring when it’s all sponsored post after sponsored post!

  • Reply Beauty By Tellie March 9, 2015 at 7:08 pm

    Don’t stop being real. You are my blogger crush!!!

  • Reply Raleene March 10, 2015 at 10:00 am

    This post is basically what I’ve been wanting to write for 6 months now, and I feel like even that already reveals too much. I can relate with every point!!!

    • Reply Helga March 10, 2015 at 10:07 am

      @Raleene, YOU SHOULD DO IT!

  • Reply Roxanne March 10, 2015 at 10:04 pm

    OMG I love this post so much although it kinda scares me. Haha. I started blogging in 2009 but I was using Tumblr instead of Blogspot. It kinda didn’t work for me because of all the hate I got from strangers AND my schoolmates who were already bullying me IRL. I deleted my blog and I kinda lost motivation although I kept on making new blogs on Blogspot. I didn’t take it seriously though. I became inactive. I only became active again this year because I know I’ve always loved blogging anyway. It’s even better because my boyfriend of 4 years just broke up with me this year. Blogging saved me somehow because it’s keeping me busy. :))

    I’m kind of afraid that I’ll soon outgrow this especially once I get a job, especially once I pursue a writing career. :( I hope I’ll still be able to update my blog from time to time. I also love personal blogs because I’m not into fashion and beauty that much. :))

    • Reply Helga March 11, 2015 at 10:32 am

      @Roxanne, Ugh, silly schoolmates! I’ve had people from high school give me online hate well after college aka WE R ALL ADULTS HERE! Some people can’t seem to move on or come to terms that who you are doesn’t match THEIR idea of who you are.

  • Reply Henzel March 12, 2015 at 3:36 pm

    Currently contemplating whether I should start writing/blogging again. I remembered you posting something about it and I searched it away. Ugh, this is such a good post Helga. :) I was kinda nostalgic back then when I met you during the fashion show, good times. I guess I should just write away and who cares if people will bother reading them. hahahaha :D

  • Reply Lo March 13, 2015 at 10:37 pm

    I love you Helga!

    I keep going back to your blog because the graphics are pretty and the posts are from the gut! If I ever create my own blog it’s going to be as real as yours.


    • Reply Helga June 6, 2015 at 11:04 am

      Thank you so much! Sorry for the super late reply. :( I hope you get around to blogging/writing! Leave me the link when you do. :)

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  • Reply Kristel March 21, 2015 at 8:57 pm

    In a way, I relate to this because blogging nowadays seems like more of a money-making stint. I do own a lifestyle blog but I write about my experiences within my entries.

  • Reply edelweiza April 8, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    I love personal blogs, too. You may not be aware of it (because I don’t comment often), but I’m one of your regular readers. You are not perfect and you have flaws and all, but your story is unique, our stories are unique and can never be replicated. Life isn’t perfect, too, but we’re all still online and that means something. Cheers! :)

  • Reply Kaye C. April 10, 2015 at 3:12 pm

    Beautifully written! :) I do miss reading personal blogs. Sponsored blog posts seem like they were written by the back office of the sponsors. Bloggers do make an effort in making them personal, however, reading a well-deserved review or post about a product or brand is much better. But I have to admit, I do slightly envy the bloggers who get the advertorials.

    When fashion blogging became the trend a few years, the things bloggers wrote about then suddenly felt like they weren’t worth reading anymore. It is very inspiring that personal blogs still exists.

    • Reply Helga June 6, 2015 at 11:05 am

      I get jealous of them, too! But then I can’t do what they do because that’s their full-time job and well, I already have a full-time job haha.

  • Reply ellataklesa April 13, 2015 at 11:10 am

    I’ve been following since my Tumblr days when I was in college. I got the hang of your blog because of your crazy hair posts. For some reason, I still check your blog from time to time.

    Thank you for being honest and real!!! So many comments! I think this resonated with so many people including me. I still keep asking myself, “Should I go back to blogging?” from time to time. In this age of pro blogging, I even find it hard to even post comments without being overly self conscious with my grammar, sentence construction, etc. And then I’ll goggle some words to check if it’s correct pa haha. BTW, I’ve seen you IRL a couple of times, hehe. At Route196 and walking around Ayala Ave.

    • Reply Britz June 3, 2015 at 9:44 pm

      Being the old woman that I am, I can’t stand most blogs, but I’ve always enjoyed yours. I’ve been a lurker for more or less 6 years & I’ve read each & every post. My dogs’ names all start with letter H as tribute to you (i hope you don’t get offended). They’re turning 6 this December. So, don’t ever stop writing Helga. You are a very good person & writer.

      • Reply Helga June 6, 2015 at 11:03 am

        Hi Britz. Thank you so much for the comment, it means a lot to me and thank you so much for being here with me for all those years! <3 What did you name your doggies? :)

        • Reply Britz June 17, 2015 at 4:07 pm

          The boys are named Hagrid & Hubble, the girls, Hoodie, Harper & Hedwig. :)

    • Reply Helga June 6, 2015 at 11:07 am

      Hi Ella! Thank you so much. <3 Don't be so self-conscious when writing online! As long as you make sense naman. :)


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