I have a bad habit of saying no to opportunities.
It took me two years to leave a job where I was underpaid, uninspired, and unhappy because I didn’t think I could make it anywhere else. When I did finally leave and started working as a freelancer, I would constantly turn down jobs (both writing and web design) because I didn’t think I was capable. Instead of taking on challenges, I resigned to defeat without even trying.
I started as a social media manager at my current company and many times, I felt like I had no clue what I was doing. When I was asked if I wanted to switch to a copywriter position, I almost didn’t take it. I asked myself— What makes this person think I can do it? Could I do it? Was I creative enough? Was I good enough? What if I’m really just a sham?
While I aspire to be Mindy Lahiri confident (bordering on delusional but also very, very endearing), I suffer from almost crippling self-doubt (and the occasional anxiety attack). Outwardly, it may seem like I have my shit together but like everyone else, I constantly question my work output and my skills. Working in advertising, a stressful industry that can get pretty cutthroat, is especially bad for my self-confidence. My biggest worry is that I’ll run out of ideas one day and end up jobless. Everyone also just seems more brilliant and more creative, and it makes me wonder if I truly am where I’m supposed to be.
(You guys know what it’s like, right?!)
Though I am nowhere near where I want to be in my career, I think I’m doing pretty okay. I know that there will always be someone better than me at what I do, so self-love and being confident in my skills are things I practice daily (on top of actually honing my craft, of course, because what use is confidence if you can’t back it up). Here are three things I tell myself whenever doubt creeps in:
Believe in those who believe in you
When someone you respect (e.g. your creative director) and trust says you are good, you thank them, take their word for it, and do everything you can not to disappoint them!
Ask for help
I remember my first official day as a copywriter: I had a JO (job order) and I had no idea what to do with it. In the past, I would give up on daunting tasks even before trying. That wasn’t an option that day (or ever, really!), though. I’m also the kind of person who would rather figure out things on her own than rely on other people. Again, that wasn’t an option that day. So I set aside my silly notions of myself and worked up the confidence to ask a fellow copywriter for help.
Seeking help doesn’t make one incompetent; rather, it means you realize your limitations and are willing to work through them!
You’re better than this
This, meaning my fears, flaws, tendencies to self-sabotage, and insecurities. Once you realize just how resilient and strong a human being can be, overcoming all the negativity becomes a little bit easier.
Everyone suffers from insecurities, even gorgeous girls like Liza Soberano! Watch the video below to learn how she conquers the negative stuff and makes confidence happen.